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The Touching Way One Terminally-Ill Mom Is Making Sure Her Daughter Remembers Her

She’ll never have to experience a milestone alone.

It’s a real-life version of PS: I Love You: A mom battling breast cancer is writing greeting cards for her 4-year-old daughter to open in the future.

Heather McManamy, a 35-year-old who received a terminal diagnosis last August, has created more than 40 cards for her daughter Brianna in an attempt to be there for all of her important milestones.

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“I did them from when she’s older or younger—random encouragement, bad day, wedding, driver license, even first breakup,” Heather told ABC News. “Every one of these that I get to hand out in person will be an accomplishment.”

Heather was first diagnosed with cancer in 2013 but says her terminal diagnosis prompted the realization that she might not survive and, along with it, a desire to be there for her family in the future.

While she still has hope that she will be able to successfully beat cancer, Heather notes that after her fourth round of chemo it’s spread to her liver, bones, and skull.

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“I will do anything and everything to be here for my daughter and my husband,” she says. “It’s really painful to know that they’re going to be sad and I won’t be there to comfort them.”

Heather says she’s been writing the cards for Brianna—which contain advice, jokes, and well-wishes—for months.

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“You name it, and I’ve got a card for it,” Heather told Yahoo Parenting. “Some have a lot written inside, and some are just short and sweet. Like what I’d write if I were here.”

Those include cards for Brianna’s birthdays, graduation, wedding, first baby, as well as the more quirky “Sorry it’s a bad day” and “Way to kick butt” cards. Heather says she’s made it up to Briana’s 30th birthday so far.

Heather has also created videos for Brianna to watch when she’s older, adding that she hopes all of her messages help her daughter in the future.

“I don’t care what she does in her life,” she tells ABC News. “I just want her to find her happiness. Life it short. If she’s true to herself, everything will be okay.”

Heather says she decided to share her story in hopes it will prompt other parents to leave something behind for their children, even if they don’t have a terminal diagnosis.

Mission accomplished.

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Your Step-by-Step Guide to Shine-Free Skin in the Heat

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Scolding a Stranger’s Child: Is It Ever Okay?

The debate is raging on Facebook after a diner owner yelled at her patron's crying baby.

A diner owner in Maine has come under fire after news that she screamed at a crying baby in her restaurant this weekend went viral.

Darla Neugebauer, who owns Marcy’s Diner in Portland, Maine, told Portland’s WCSH6 she tried to kick the child out of the diner after she started screaming and wouldn’t stop.

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Here’s what happened, says Darla: A couple came into the restaurant with their toddler and ordered three pancakes for the girl. When the pancakes arrived, Darla says the parents didn’t let the girl have them, and she then proceeded to cry for “nearly an hour.” (The girl’s mom, Tara Carson, later said her daughter cried for 10 minutes.)

“I slammed my hands on the counter, and I said, ‘this needs to stop!’ meaning her screaming,” said Darla. “I pointed at her, and she looked at me and she stopped. Her parents said ‘Are you screaming at a child?!’ Yes I am, and she shut up.”

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Tara tells WCSH that Darla said something more like “Shut the hell up!” adding, “I was in pure shock…I felt helpless as a mom.”

Tara later went on Facebook to post the following comment: “I had the worst experience at this establishment. The owner is an absolute lunatic and screamed in the face of my almost 2-year-old child because she was crying,” per the Portland Press Herald.  (The post has been taken down.)

That started a Facebook war, with Darla responding, “Yes I am f—ing crazy and you are lucky I didn’t get really f—ing nuts because being physical is not something I cover from, male or female.”

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She added, “After your fourth attempt to shut her up, I asked you to pack up either your rotten child or take the so important pancakes to go…but NOOO you just sit there and let your f—ing screaming child go and piss off my staff and patrons! …Your lesson today: Not everyone thinks you and your family are all that!”

Reactions to the showdown have been mixed.

Some have shown their support on Facebook for Darla:

And others haven’t been as thrilled:

Despite the backlash, Darla says she’s not sorry. “I might have used poor judgment,” she said. “I wouldn’t say I was sorry because it stopped.”

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Should You Spring for Pricey Hair Salon Products—or Are They a Rip-Off?

That shampoo your stylist always pushes is tempting…but is it really worth the cost?

To maintain healthy, shiny strands, it’s absolutely crucial to be smart about where and when you buy your hair-care products. And since a recent survey by PopSugar found that 37 percent of women typically spend $200 or more annually on hair care, it’s not just your hair that’ll benefit from a lesson in being a savvy shopper—your wallet will be in better shape, too. So when you go get your hair cut or colored by a professional, do you really need to shell out for the pricey products they suggest you buy at the salon? Here’s what the experts want you to know.

Professional stylists are in-the-know about the science and technology behind new and current products and are testing the claims daily, so it’s definitely worth looking to them for hair-care recommendations versus buying products elsewhere. “Most product lines [carried at salons] are up to five times more concentrated in the active ingredients than similar products you will find in other retail stores,” says Roman Kusayev, a stylist and owner of Roman K Salon in New York City who has worked on Danica Patrick. He adds that since the salons are using the actual product they’re selling, you can trust that they’d only use the best.  

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That being said, in some cases, stylists can push clients to buy products because they make a commission off the sales. “The stylist should educate you on the product from the beginning of the appointment and use the product [or products] in the process,” says Kusayev. “If the stylist doesn’t, then he or she could just be looking to make a sale and probably doesn’t care if the client needs the product or not.” If you get the vibe that your stylist is just not that into you and is just pushing products to make a sale, put the brakes on it pronto, says Jet Rhys, wner of Jet Rhys Salon in San Diego. “If you feel like you’re getting pushed, close the door on the conversation by saying something like, ‘Thank you for recommending these, I have everything I need at home,'” says Rhys. 

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But what if you see your favorite salon product at the drugstore? Not so fast. While there are some seriously awesome deals to be had on everyday items, it’s not so ideal for purchasing products from salon brands. That’s because these products could be fake, or they even could have been tampered with. Paul Mitchell, for example, has a disclaimer on their website stating that their products are only guaranteed when purchased in a professional salon, not a drugstore or any other unauthorized sources.

Some ways to avoid a fake out: Smell the product you’re looking to buy for any funkiness, look at the formula to see if it’s discolored, check the packaging (a dull bottle can be the sign of a fading after being left in a warehouse), check the expiration date to make sure it hasn’t passed, and make sure the seal isn’t missing or broken. Rhys says that it’s okay to buy hair accessories like those from Goody in a drugstore, and Kusayev adds that baby shampoo, dandruff shampoos, and/or hairspray are all products you can save on by buying drugstore versions made by manufacturers (like Procter & Gamble and Johnson & Johnson) that only sell their products to drugstores. 

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And experts agree that discount stores and sites should be avoided at all costs. In many cases, these are black market products, so they may be bought from other salons that couldn’t sell them, and they might have been sitting somewhere without the proper storage temperature for long periods of time, says Kusayev. “There is also a big operation of fraud, where products are being diluted—or even counterfeit products being sold to all kinds of Internet web retailers,” he says. If you’d still rather surf the Web for hair-care products, go straight to the brand’s site, which will usually sell products right online or direct consumers to a salon locator. There, you’ll get a list of verified locations for your brand of choice.

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Counterfeit watches clocking up sales online

The watches are advertised as “boutique grade” – fakes which are of such high quality, even dealers have trouble telling them apart from the real thing.

The replicas of luxury timepieces from the likes of Audemars Piguet, Panerai and Rolex come in official-looking boxes, complete with warranty cards and papers.

And there is a booming trade in them online.

The Sunday Times has found at least four Facebook pages through which these counterfeits are being sold for between $500 and $1,500, depending on the model.


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10 Super Annoying Things Dudes Have Done While Their Partners Were in Labor

They may have meant well, but…

Pushing a watermelon-sized human out of your hoo-ha is one of the most nerve-wracking things a woman can do in her life. And that’s exactly why most baby daddies probably need some kind of coaching on how to not make us want to punch them during those grueling hours. Maybe it’s not their fault—after all, they are trying to be a supportive. But a lot of the time, they unintentionally take actions that are so. Not. Helpful. Here, 10 women share the crazy annoying things their partners did while they were in labor.

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“While I was in labor with our first child, Steven watched an entire season of One Tree Hill. When I was in labor with our twins for over 24 hours, he kept going to get food and brought it right back to the room to eat in front of me. And when I was ready to deliver the twins, he was afraid to move to my side so stayed right next to my head; when I started leaning up to push, his head was in the way, and we kept head-butting each other.” —Jenna G.

“My partner is usually a ‘husband of the year’ type of guy, but he fell short when I was in labor with our daughter. After 47 hours, he told me he was really tired and said that I probably wasn’t because I got sleep between contractions. Yeah. Right. Obviously, this didn’t go over well with me!” —Stacey H.

“I had to have a last minute C-section, and I felt like I couldn’t breathe. I was actually having a panic attack—it was my first one ever. I told the technician that I was absolutely terrified, but he said I was fine and went back to whatever he was doing. My then-husband—we’re not together anymore—kept trying to watch the doctor perform the surgery, so the doctor invited him to the other side of the curtain to watch. And he actually left! I begged him not to leave my side because I felt like I was dying. I lived, obviously, but I needed him to be there for me and he wasn’t. I eventually forgive him.” —Monique P.

“Not long before I was ready to have the baby, my husband wanted to run across the street to a bar to have a burger. He said he was starving and that he wouldn’t be able to eat after the baby came, though I don’t know why he thought that. I told him he didn’t have enough time, but he insisted. Well, he almost missed the birth because it took him about 40 minutes to get his food, eat it, and get back into the room. I could have killed him.” —Kristen K.

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“After my water broke, I held out for as long as I could before going to the hospital. When my cursing became too frequent, my husband decided we should go because he didn’t want the neighbors to think that he was beating me up me all day. But they all knew I was pregnant! When we were on the way, after 12 hours of labor, he told me to ‘stop squirming’ in the car because other people were ‘looking at us weird.’ Seriously?” —Ronjini J.

“As I was lying in the delivery room giving birth to our first child about a month before my due date, waiting for the rest of the action to start, my husband decided to head to Best Buy to buy a video camera so he could tape our son’s birth. I’ll never forget his last words before leaving the room: ‘Don’t do anything until I get back!'” —Kathie G.

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“After 30 hours of labor with my first child, my husband was trying to be helpful by cooling off my face with a washcloth. But when he placed the damp, gross cloth on my open eyeballs, I ripped it from his hand and threw it across the room. The sound of the wash cloth hitting the wall was way more soothing than him putting the thing on my face!” —Jessica D.

“My now-ex-husband freaked out when I told him it was time to go to the hospital. He bolted to the living room and said, ‘I can’t! I have to work tomorrow.’ He pulled out his briefcase, took out a file, and said, ‘See! This is the case! I really do have to be in trial tomorrow at 9:30!’ And with that, my patience ended. As he turned his back to me and bent down to put the file back, I gave him a swift kick to the butt, which knocked him off of his feet. I sensed that I finally had his complete attention, so I said, ‘We are having a baby now! So, get up and drive!’ And he did.” —Bonnie R.

“While we were at the hospital, my husband said he was going to go park the car in the long-term hospital parking lot. I told him it wasn’t necessary because we were parked in the space for labor and delivery patients. When he came back from ‘moving the car,’ he didn’t tell me that he had also gone to a fast food drive-thru across the street. Our daughter was born a couple of hours later. The next morning, my father-in-law dropped off breakfast for us at the hospital and said that we were probably hungry since my husband hadn’t eaten since his sandwich last night. I said, ‘What sandwich was that?’ Then, he finally admitted to getting a cheeseburger while I was in labor. I was beyond annoyed.” —Jeannie H.

“While I was giving birth, the doctor and my husband were so interested in the Wimbledon tennis tournament on TV that they forgot to tell me to push when I was having a contraction. Since I had an epidural, I couldn’t tell when it was time to do it.” —Vicki G.

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Art, Music, and Fashion Come Together in This Southern Weekend Festival

This weekend, head south to witness how art, music, and fashion collide. Commercenter Alabang presents Southside Collective, a two-day mini-festival at the mall’s Activity Center. The festival will feature work from both established and up-and-coming artists in the country. Independent Filipino publishing house Meganon Comics, which aims to create a sustainable local comics community, joins the event alongsideRadioactive Mushrooms in the […]

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How to Go Blonde the RIGHT Way

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Asia’s affluent love the sun and the sea

Places with pristine beaches and swanky hotels top the list of family vacation destinations for affluent families living in the Asia Pacific region, results of a recent study by Visa has shown.

The study observed the travel patterns of the affluent consumers around the Asia Pacific and found that 4 in 5 respondents have travelled with their families in the past 6 months and prefer spending their family vacations within the region.


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What to Do if You Have an Oily Scalp

Get to the root of the problem—literally.

Greasy hair, don’t care? Yeah, right. If you have an oily scalp, you know frustrating it can be to have hair that feels clean one minute and dirty the next. 

So what exactly causes all that oil? “The reason hair gets oily is because sebaceous glands in your scalp produce excess sebum, which travels down the hair shaft,” says celebrity hairstylist and hair thinning expert Angelo David Pisacreta of the Angelo David Salon in New York City. Causes of excess sebum (the natural oil produced by your scalp) can include genes, hormonal imbalances, humidity, your diet, or something as specific as a disease called seborrheic dermatitis, which also causes scaly patches and will need to be managed with the help of your dermatologist. (And keep in mind that you may also need to visit your derm if the problem persists after you’ve tried at-home solutions.)

To treat oiliness at home, Pisacreta suggests shampooing less. That may sound counterintuitive, but it works. That’s because shampoo strips your hair of oil, and the more you use it, the more sebum your scalp produces in response. 

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Although it may be tough at first to break the daily habit, Pisacreta recommends washing every other day. “Washing every day can irritate your scalp, dehydrate your hair and fade your color,” he says.  

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And when you do wash, shampoo and rinse twice, says Pisacreta, because that will reduce any product buildup. “Also, avoid highly moisturizing hair products or leave-in conditioners and oils,” he says. All of the above not only make hair greasier, but they attract particles in the air, which weigh strands down and make them appear dirtier.

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That being said, when you first skip shampoos, your hair will look greasy for those initial few washes as it adapts to producing less oil. Your not-so-secret weapon until your scalp adjusts: dry shampoo. If dry shampoo hasn’t worked for you in the past, you’re probably not using it correctly, says Pisacreta. The best way to do it is by first brushing your hair, then shaking the can of dry shampoo and misting it just on the roots, keeping the bottle a few inches away from your scalp. Then distribute the product evenly by brushing out your hair again, says Pisacreta. If you skip brushing post-spritz, the product can clog pores and result in overproduction of sebum.

For days your oily scalp needs more help, Pisacreta recommends two simple styles—a messy ponytail or flirty curls.

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To make the ponytail, mist Redken Pillow Proof Blow Dry Two Day Extender & Oil Absorbing Dry Shampoo ($10, redken.com) onto your scalp evenly, says Pisacreta. Next, use your fingertips to brush your hair back and create natural texture, securing the ponytail with a hair tie.

Curls work by making greasy hair look less flat. “When your hair gets greasy, it tends to get flatter,” says Pisacreta. So to fluff it up, section off your hair, and wrap sections around a curling iron to create loose curls. Brush out with your fingertips, and finish with texturizing or sea salt spray.

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